Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Dealing with LDS families

There's an interesting thread on Mormon Matters about LDS families with gay children. Readers of this blog may want to check it out and possibly contribute their own stories.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Carol Lynn Pearson - podcast

Mormon Stories has a podcast with Carol Lynn Pearson, the author of Goodbye, I Love You, Facing East and No More Goodbyes: Circling the Wagons Around Our Gay Loved Ones.

The podcast is lengthy but very worthwhile. My favorite section is Part 4 where Sister Pearson talks about supporting gays in the Church and society.

This section is about 1 hour and 15 minutes long. It is worth every minute. Here's a quick guide to Part 4 of the interview:

1:05 Writing Goodbye, I Love You
2:00 LDS reactions to Goodbye, I Love You
10:00 Carol Lynn begins to get letters from gay people and their families
11:20 Writing Facing East (a play about parents who deal with the suicide of their gay son).
15:45 LDS reactions to Facing East
16:30 Writing No More Goodbyes
19:27 Prop 8. and its aftermath
29:20 Attempts at reconciliation by the Oakland Stake
33:02 Advice for young people wondering if there is a place in the church for them
37:45 Advice for a person considering entering a mixed-orientation marriage
41:10 Advice for a gay person trying to make a mixed-orientation marriage work
44:13 Advice for navigating a divorce
45:10 Advice for gay Mormons with respect to same-sex relationships
48:20 The possibility of long-term same-sex relationships and the benefits of social support for gay relationships
50:52 Comments about this moment in history
52:05 Are long-term gay relationships even possible? (rebuttal to hostile interview question)
58:50 Advice for a man who chooses celibacy
1:01:10 The need for partnership
1:06:25 Advice for parents of gay children
1:11:15 Suicide

You can view the entire interview (parts 1 - 5, about 4 hours) here.

Pearson is compassionate and wise. She has keen emotional intelligence (I believe this is what has helped her avoid run-ins with LDS leaders). Her activism on this issue within the framework of the Church shows tremendous moral courage. I don't when I've ever seen gay people better defended within the Mormon context.