Sunday, October 14, 2007

Collateral damage

We rarely hear the perspectives of the women who find themselves unexpectedly in mixed-orientation marriages. Here are two videos where their stories are told.

I post these because the discussion about whether a man with SSA should enter into a mixed-orientation marriage often focuses on his issues-- his desire for righteousness and exaltation, his desire to retain his family's approval, his fear of rejection by the church. What is left out of the discussion is the question of what risks such a marriage pose for the woman he might marry.

Via: Besen
Posted from: India

There is a third video on this subject that I will link to but not embed, since it more political than I intend in my blog.


C. L. Hanson said...

I've posted about a couple of different such stories that focus largely on the feelings of the straight spouse: Alison Bechdel's Fun Home and My Ex is Having Sex with Rex.

Holly said...

Thanks for posting this. There's actually a lot of stuff by and for straight Mormon women with gay husbands--there are so many of them, because the church commanded gay men to marry women. Check out Wildflowers, Emily Pearson's organization (Pearson herself is both the daughter and ex-wife of a gay man). If you are interested in women's issues, this stuff is easy to find. But you are right that it is very easy to read some discussions of male homosexuality--not all, but some--and get the impression that the lives and happiness of women constitute acceptable sacrifices.